Category Archives: encouragement

Seize the opportunity


Talking with my friend, Fiona last week, she challenged me to seize the opportunity I was currently in. An opportunity to not just get through this current season of my life but also an opportunity to make a lasting difference to my life.

I have chosen to seize the opportunity with everything I have. It’s a slightly rocky ride with some very difficult bits. But I am seizing it with everything I have. Would love to encourage you to do the same. Take hold of what life is giving you- the good, bad and the ugly.

Thanks for listening.




sometimes things can get better…


I am back in the French Alps, and Lac Montriond is one of my happy places in the world. I have been  few times now and it is a short bus ride away from where I usually stay. It is glorious. This picture was possibly taken about 4 years ago, and doesn’t do it justice.


Yesterday, I visited it again. And if it were possible, the scene that greeted me was even more spectacular… it was the first time I had seen it without snow and it was GLORIOUS.


IMG_2391My photos do not do it justice… but my eyes did.

It made me think, that sometimes we think things can never get better/ be better… and yesterday, I saw for myself, that sometimes things can get better even when they are already pretty amazing.

Thanks for listening.

Going naked


I have blogged about the facial disfigurement I was born with (sorry, sometimes I know I bang on about it). Of all the issues I have been looking at over the years- the one where I feel I have made least progress is in the way I look.

Until now.

Unknown.jpegSometimes change is so slow it is negligible. I would much prefer the wake up one morning and everything is different- but sadly, that doesn’t really happen that often. But every now and again I find myself doing or saying something that I’m not sure I would have done previously. This is one of the reasons I love blogging- it helps me see the successes and process the challenges.

In the summer I decided to go naked.

I have always HATED the fact that because of my skull not fusing properly I have this thick clump of hair that no matter what I do with it always congregates in the middle of my forehead. I really find it repulsive. (Sorry, wish I could say that was hyperbole but actually I really find it stomach turning).

In the Summer while in Bulgaria, I decided to cut my fringe off. Instead of trying to hide my forehead and it looking worse in the process, with my sisters encouragement, I decided to embrace it and go naked. And do you know what… only ONE PERSON has noticed and I love it!

Daniel, has spoken to me about it. He noticed something different and was very encouraging about it. But no one else has said anything and that is really positive for me. Because that includes the public. It hasn’t made it worse and to be honest, I found the clump of hair so much more upsetting then the scars so its win win, I don’t have the clump and no one mentions the dent!


But it doesn’t stop there…  I have suffered with an eye condition for 24 years now and as a consequence the iris in my eye is now permanently damaged and it means that my eye lets in more light than usual. This is really painful and its not just sun that hurts its general day light. Reactor-light lenses do not go dark enough for me so I have been wearing prescription sunglasses virtually non-stop until 2 weeks ago- when I lost them 😦 It is a faff having to swap continually between glasses and sunglasses but its the only way I have been able to manage the pain in my eyes.

But now for the first time ever, I am considering contact lenses. Instead of trying to hide my wide-set eyes with thick and sometimes outrageous glasses- can I go naked? No mask. Just my face. I don’t know. I’m not sure if I would be able to go outside without my glasses. But the situation needs looking at as I need new prescription glasses- so is now the time?

On Friday evening, I spent some time looking in the mirror. (Penelope has been trying to  get me to do this for the last 4 years but I’ve never been able to manage it. (I can actually get ready without looking in a mirror at all.) But on Friday, I sat and looked. Without glasses (obviously everything looks blurred without my glasses) but I could see my face and I just wondered without the glasses whether I might be better doing the fringe attitude. Fronting it out. Doing the opposite to what I want to do- instead of hiding- embracing. Its something I am going to explore.

In reality I am not sure whether I can wear contacts etc… but I’m definitely going to explore. I may just find it totally liberating – like my lack of fringe!!!!

Thanks for listening.

The broad themes…


I need to anchor my thoughts about the Summer- not just for blogging purposes but also to give myself chapters/ milestones to  anchor to. When things get very wobbly and threaten to break, I want to know clearly what I can hold on to. I think this Summer was about

  • creativity
  • community and encouragement
  • courage
  • unexpected possibilities
  • the power of being a woman
  • being prepared

I’m not saying I am going to blog about each of these, as most are interwoven anyway- but I know from memory techniques I need a list!

I need to go and get ready to be seen in public now, so I need to hold those thoughts! Very exciting!

Thanks for listening.

30 and not out


Yesterday I completed my 30th run! 

After two fairly significant injuries I am virtually back to the place I was before the second one stopped me running for 18 days. 

The progress is slow, but I am making progress nevertheless! Where the app says week 3, I have actually been at it for 16 weeks!!!! But I’m still further on than when I started! 

30 runs seemed like a good place to celebrate. 

Well done Hephzibah, you are doing great. 

Thanks for listening. 

vision, motivation and confusion


I have been on a Visioning Workshop all day today. It has been a good but tiring day. Like journaling, I have been taught visioning by and it originates from Lucia Cappchione in California.

I have done vision boards before. I had pre-decided my theme that I wanted to do a vision board on. But I also tried to be open to any other ideas that came up in the moment. However, the issue became that I was torn between my theme… the one I had originally thought of or my new ‘aha’ moment. It has left an unsatisfactory feeling. I don’t like things not being resolved. I like clarity! And today I don’t have it.

I went for my run after the session. I am in the depths of West Sussex and it is SOOO dark. I am very pleased I took a torch with me! This is the inspiring quote from the app for this run. I have decided I should try and read them before I start… it might encourage me!

I need to sleep on things and maybe tomorrow will be a bit clearer.

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