I am back in the French Alps, and Lac Montriond is one of my happy places in the world. I have been few times now and it is a short bus ride away from where I usually stay. It is glorious. This picture was possibly taken about 4 years ago, and doesn’t do it justice.
Yesterday, I visited it again. And if it were possible, the scene that greeted me was even more spectacular… it was the first time I had seen it without snow and it was GLORIOUS.
My photos do not do it justice… but my eyes did.
It made me think, that sometimes we think things can never get better/ be better… and yesterday, I saw for myself, that sometimes things can get better even when they are already pretty amazing.
Thanks for listening.
Yesterday’s blogging was really helpful for me. Seeing things as they really are sometimes can be a helpful starting point for change.
If depression is an illness, then illnesses are treatable. There is medicine for illness and I know what that medicine is. So in the same way if I had a sore arm, I would know what will help and what would make it worse… I can do that with this period of low mood.
And that in and of itself makes things better. So here is my prescription thus far:
- accept the things I cannot currently change
- change the things I cannot currently accept
- go to bed at regular times
- eat food… and not just rubbish
- go out for a walk every day
- get sun on my face
- make the bed each day
- be kind to myself- don’t berate myself- it doesn’t help
- self-soothe using the different senses
- focus on breathing
- ask for help
and even though all of that feels too much, don’t give in to the temptation to do nothing and isolate.
I need to avoid:
- situations I find depressing (e.g. visiting my neighbour in the care home)
- only eating rubbish
- in fact, doing all the opposite of the above list!
THIS TOO SHALL PASS… it won’t last for ever.
Self-Soothing is a key skill in DBT Distress Tolerance. It’s something that I find difficult and I often don’t feel very soothed even if I do the things I meant to… but sometimes I know I have to just keep persevering and practice.
The last few weeks I have been cross-stitching. I don’t remember doing it before. It has helped keep me sane! It needs total concentration- I can’t do anything else at the same time- I need to count and plot! So its not been something I can really do with other people. However, I have spent hours beavering away at the image and its nearly there.
I think the need to concentrate on something totally different has been helpful. The colours always bring joy to my eyes. The physicality of using needle and thread has also been helpful- Ive been connected with the materials. Again, I’ve seen a blank canvas turned in to something beautiful.
Beautiful isn’t it?
The back of the canvas doesn’t look quite so pretty…
bit like the inside of my mind at the moment!!!!
But I love the fact that even the messy side looks beautiful in its own way.
As I get better at cross-stitch apparently the back of it will look better… but Im not overly bothered really- I think it looks fab.
Thanks for listening